How and Why to Avoid Over-Parenting Your Child

How and Why to Avoid Over-Parenting Your Child

There can be little doubt that raising a child is one of the most rewarding yet challenging aspects of adult life.

But what happens when a parent goes a little too far when nurturing and supporting their child? This is known as over-parenting and it can be almost as destructive as ignoring your child.

Read on How and Why to Avoid Over-Parenting Your Child

Here we discuss a few examples of what is meant by over-parenting and explain exactly why it is negative rather than positive in more than one way.

Over-parenting 101

Okay, so this is one of those definitions that is fairly self-explanatory. Typically, it applies to parents who are over protective and once who will not allow their kids to do things without their help.

This could be applied to something as basic as doing up their shoelaces right through to taking over the homework duties and even more.

There are even cases when a parent actually phones up their little angel’s boss at work and demands to know why he or she hasn’t been given a pay rise or promotion. When over-parenting gets ugly, there are no age limits and seemingly no boundaries.

The big issue

Being there for your children is one of the most natural behaviors for parents and it is very difficult to do the right thing as far as letting them grow up is concerned.

You see, by holding their hand whenever life gets tough, you are forcing them to miss out on some very important life lessons. No responsible parents would be able to sit idly by as their child is put in harm’s way, but there is a compromise that needs to be considered.

You will not always be there for your children and once you accept this fact, it becomes easier to allow them to find their own feet.  

The remedy

They call it ‘Tough Love’ and that term is very accurate indeed. Although it surely tugs on every good parent’s heartstrings, stepping aside when necessary can be the very best way to treat your children.

That crucial moment when they let go of your hand as they see their school friends are so very bittersweet but every parent-child relationship will experience this at some point.

Your children will need to face some pretty harsh realities during life and these events are what will essentially shape who they are.

Outro

By allowing your children to actually discover their own individual autonomy, you are facilitating their success or failures. We learn by our mistakes and we all make many of these during life’s journey. Narcissistic and entitled adults are usually the result of over-parenting.

Once they have flown the nest, wouldn’t you much prefer them to be as strong and independent as possible? The answer to that question should always be yes, so ensure that you know when those apron strings can be safely cut because their future success and happiness really does depend on that judgement call.

Author Bio:

Nominated as ‘Best Physiotherapy Consultant’ in Noida, Dr.Vidhi Jain has over 7 years of experience as a Physiotherapist.  She is currently practicing at Vinayak Physiotherapy in Noida as HOD of the Physiotherapy Department.
She also writes for Medlife International Private Limited, an online pharmacy store operating in India.

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6 Comment

  1. Letting go is very difficult.Its probably the most difficult part of parenting.The balance needed to let things be ,when you wamt to solve all problems.Great post

    1. thanks 🙂

  2. I couldn’t agree more. Parenting doesn’t mean smothering your child with love…. it means proper nurturing to bring out the best in the child. I loved your comment on talking to the little angel’s boss! I have two grown up daughters who are professionals (in fact one of them is an anaesthesiologist and I help her baby sit her two boys). I often feel like slapping their bosses but of course don’t dare even mention it. They’ll just laugh because I’ve never interfered in their affairs while they were growing up and let them sort out their own issues in the playground and classroom.

    1. Giving space to children’s means a chance to them to be mature enough to stand by their wishes. Mor power to your motherhood 🙂 Thanks for stopping by

      1. Will stop by again!

        1. 🙂

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